I wanted you to get to know J a little before I started from the beginning. You needed to know a little more about him before you could fully grasp the beauty of this story. We were set-up on a blind date and he picked line dancing.
I know that sounds so amazingly fantastic to some of you, but to me, it was just the worst ever. Not because I suck at dancing (I do at line dancing) but because I hate it. I especially hate it hear in Southern California. There is a culture about it that is so hard to break into.
In the past, I have asked my friends how they learned the steps to the different dances: YouTube. So no one here helped you learn?
No, you’re just expected to know them or get out of the way.
Yeah, that sounds like a place I want to be… So one of my friends that were really good tried to teach me. But it takes time and practice for me, not just one lesson.
I asked if we could do something else. Well, I have plans to go line dancing on Friday night, so you can join my friends and I there. Wow, thanks for being accommodating. I shouldn’t have gone. I should have just bailed. A guy that isn’t willing to be flexible to MEET you isn’t worth it!!
Well, I invited a group of my girlfriends because I didn’t want to be with just him and his friends. My ladies and I got there and it turned out that his friends were my friends. They were people that I had known longer than him. I hadn’t seen some of them in years though! I think it through him off with just how many people we knew in common. Oh and they were all single guys 😉 No of which I was interested in, but he didn’t know that at the time.
So he kept bugging me to get on the dance floor and I kept declining. I told him I don’t line dance and we could talk. So we talked for a bit then he ditched me to go dance. I was over it. I didn’t care. I hated (still do) line dancing. They announced two-stepping (where you line dance with a partner). He begged me and grabbed my hand and pulled me onto the dance floor.
See, the problem with dancing with a partner is that you always need a strong lead. Period. End of story. Even when you both know the dance. It’s even more important when one of you doesn’t know the dance. I asked J if he knew how to two-step and said I could follow if he knew what he was doing. He of course told me he did. Then about a minute into the dance was frustrated that we weren’t as good as one of our friends who was teaching a girl. I looked over and he was a brilliant lead. I just laughed and walked off the floor.
The night ended and I told my girlfriends that this was over. There was nothing there. But he asked if he could walk me to my car. Well to his surprise, that meant walking all of us to one car. Then in front of all of my ladies, he asked if we could see each other again.
How could I turn him down in front of them?! I said sure and to hit me up. I figured I could try to turn him down via phone. I thought I gave him every signal of no that night.
J really was clueless.